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Patti Suler's avatar

Lovely article.

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Thanks, Patti! I think Hardwiring Happiness would be a great book to discuss in your Progress Not Perfection book club.

For those who don’t know, Patti has a mental health business called One Girl Standing. Visit its FB page to learn more.

She’s also a good friend and mentor. My Nature + Nurture” ebook (available at wendigordon.gumroad.com) is dedicated to her because she encouraged me to create it.

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Roshana Ariel's avatar

I LOVE Dr. Rick Hanson. So glad you discovered him.

I was reminded of this method when I was going through a recent piano lesson (online). The teacher said that we should practice how we want to feel while we're doing our (very challenging) exercises. We want to feel relaxed and easy and put that easy feeling into our playing.

It makes such a big difference!

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Yes, Dr. Hanson is awesome! I can’t believe that no other mental health expert I’m aware of has talked about the importance of not just noticing and being grateful for positive experiences but staying in them long enough for them to be stored in our implicit memories.

A lot of other experts have discussed neuroplasticity and our ability to rewire our brains. I already knew that we can activate previously dormant neurons, disconnect those that currently fire together, and create new neural pathways. But I did not know that staying fully immersed in positive experiences for 20 seconds was a way to do that!

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