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RenoQueen's avatar

Good reminders for every day.

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Thanks for letting me know you appreciated my message!

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Laura Maakestad Sullivan's avatar

Thank you Wendi for suggesting this great topic! I am ready declare my independence from self criticism. Instead I will continue to take a deep breath, and go out and look at the lovely little pond where we have ducks and beautiful trees. After that wonderful reset, I will send compassion to myself. I just spoke to my therapist, and she reminded me how to have gratitude for the things I have done well. For example I told her that, at age 14 at a Bible Camp, I told a Man to "let go of my hand!" Fortunately, he did because he could see that he was being witnessed by several people, including our minister in the background. He had inappropriately reached for my hand. And Fortunately, my minister then asked that inappropriate man to leave the premises. I was fierce then about my boundaries and am now. So, instead of criticizing myself I will try to remind myself that I am still fierce, and have compassion for myself also.

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

What a wonderful example of how you were able to advocate for yourself and fiercely defend your boundaries even at the tender age of 14!

I hope you will be able to remember that you are still fierce and be as compassionate to yourself as you are to others. That is an ongoing challenge for me, too.

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Maurice Clive Bisby's avatar

Hi Wendi, I love the way you express your personal ten commandments. So very close to my own.

The death of my father just before his 60th and my 5th birthday, left me and my Mum with PTSD. Like autism, It never really goes away. I touched on this in my post yesterday, and intend to go into greater depth as I develop my writing. Peace, Maurice

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Thank you, Maurice, and I hope your writing helps you as much as mine helps me!

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Maurice Clive Bisby's avatar

Well yes, it opens doors every day, journeys into new worlds behind every one, and every world totally, perpetually accessible. Praise the quill.......

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Sally French Wessely's avatar

Freedom from many of the fears that either bind me now or have bound me in the past come from such a list as you have compiled. We struggle with many of the same things.

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Yes, I think most people struggle with many of the same fears and negative beliefs. Thanks for commenting!

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Kathleen Splitt's avatar

I don’t think I could make a better list for myself.

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Thanks! I’m glad my list resonated with you.

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Roshana Ariel's avatar

What do I want to be free of?

The fear of not doing it right, whatever "it" is.

Fear of what might happen.

Fear of failing at life.

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Maurice Clive Bisby's avatar

There is no right, no wrong, no success or failure, there is only the journey, Peace, Maurice

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Wendi Gordon's avatar

Yes, I want to be free of those fears, too! Thanks for sharing your answer.

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